Happiness and Motherhood 3

In Buddhism, we ought to be a light for ourselves, yet we are surrounded by well-meaning advice and judgement 24/7. How can we maintain a sense of serenity and happiness with so much input bombarding us about our children and about motherhood?
Secret #3
It is compassionate to acknowledge well-meaning input, and it is wise to examine our lives in regards to it. Yet if happiness is on our mind, we must not give our context too much power. Everybody has an agenda. Nobody knows that much. When my first child was born, a well-meaning nurse wanted me to wake up my exhausted baby as if feeding my daughter immediately after birth was a biological necessity. I knew what my daughter needed. I still do. If mothers wish to be happy, they must not be flustered too easily. We cannot listen to all well-meaning advice. We must listen to our own light. The noise of others should not penetrate our steadfast hearts and minds.

Happiness and Motherhood 2

It is difficult to be happy and unfocused, yet it is our kids' job to interrupted us frequently. What is there to do?
Secret #2
Sometimes not much. But other times we can assure that we do get uninterrupted time for part of the day. Wisely used, this time can become enormously important and provide nourishment for the rest of the day. When I use my time to reconnect with what is important, to become still, to experience fully the All to which I belong, I manage to be happy even when I am pulled in a million directions later.
Take time for yourself, but not only to shop and chat, but to slow down and be fed my the greatest mother, our all mother, Mother Nature.

Happiness and Motherhood

I mean is it possible? Is it possible to be happy and a mother? Some people think that this is the only way to be happy. But that is a myth. It is actually a challenge to combine the two.

The Dalai Lama has said that parenthood is a burden. While I strongly disagree, it can certainly be a burden. I will reveal "secrets" about how to be happy and a mother in several blogs, starting today.

Secret #1:
I am a happy mother because I am not a mother at all, at least not right now. Right now I am a blogger. Other times I am a runner. Then I am a friend and then I am a lover. Whatever I do in the moment is what I am. When I sit, I sit. When it is time to be a mother, I love being a mother. I am proud to be a mother. My children are no burden to me. They are my precious moment. When I mother, I mother. When I sit, I sit.